Lately, all I seem to be doing is watching sports movies whenever they show up on TV. But not just any sports movie, just the sports movies about underdog athletes who feel they missed their chance and unexpectedly get another opportunity. These are the characters who have been sidelined by life but decide to try again. Maybe that's what all sports movies are about and I now understand the appeal.Whether it's Invincible or The Rookie the plot just sucks me in. Though I wish I were more familiar with movies that feature women as the centerpiece, (and please feel let me know some titles) I still get very inspired by the stories of men with feet of clay. These are the ones who are considered past their prime, not just by society but by themselves. They have given up on their dreams.
So, of course being a coach and therapist, I have to look within myself to why these movies appeal to to me at this time.
I believe it's because I have overcome a health issue and now want the reassurance that there is still time for me'; time to be healthy again; time to accomplish my professional goals and time to enjoy life. I also have witnessed my clients and patients experience these same longings and who are willing to take the courageous steps to try again. Many of them have experiences losses of every kind; issues of emotional and physical trauma; the bottoming out on alcohol, substances, excess spending or have beat a serious illness. Yet, despite these setbacks, when the second chance opportunity captures their attention, they are willing to open their hearts and try again.
I admire them greatly.
It's good to have dreams and to not give up on who we are. Maybe the dreams have changed form or have been scaled in some way, but perhaps the essence of what they are, can still be explored.
How do you know you are ready for a second chance? Here are a few things to consider.
Notice what you are noticing: What is capturing your attention at this time?
- Do those commercials on finishing a degree fascinate you?
- What type of music, movies or books are you turning to over and over? Why?
- Are you lingering over that email about the improv, art, or speaking class?
- Does the offer to teach or lead light you up?
You feel flushed with emotions: Taking a second chance is not always easy and their are usually a variety of emotions.
- You find yourself vacillating between the fear of being stuck and the excitement of wanting to try. I call this emotional turbulence and it occurs during change.
- You feel restless because there is suddenly time, space or the unexpected opportunity to think "what now"or "it's time".
- You feel nostalgic about past accomplishments and pursuits that made you happy.
Second chances are all about opportunity and timing. When you honor your right to try again, your spirit will soar. Share your dreams with those you trust and then find the courage to take that first step.
You are more than ready to try.