My epiphany happened over the kitchen counter as I was staring down at the blouse I was ironing on a towel. I was running late and didn’t want to stop and take down the ironing board because I thought it would take too much time. But, as I looked at my still wrinkled top, I realized I would have to use the ironing board anyway and that this wouldn’t be the first time I had had this experience.
For a long time, whenever I was headed out and noticed I had a wrinkle in something I wanted to wear, I would put a towel down on the kitchen counter and iron there because I told myself it would take less time than setting up the ironing board. Where I got this idea, I’m not sure but I have to tell you, it never worked. Almost every single time, I would find myself struggling to get my blouse straight on the towel or keep the towel from bunching up. I would inevitably take down the ironing board and do it the way it should have been done in the first place.
There are times when bypassing the usual route provides us with opportunity to leap forward on the path we are traveling. I love those moments, those times when we say to ourselves, “Go for it!” There is enough self-confidence to skip over the usual analysis, take action and fill in the details as we go. How do we tell when to take a short cut? In my experience, it’s when our internal response to the potential decision has more excitement, than fear. We believe in those moments that no matter what, we will be “all right”.
But what about the decisions that short change us when we move too fast? My ironing choice kept short changing me in the long run. The blouse needed more time and attention that I wanted to give it and ultimately I knew it. But I overrode that knowledge because I was invested in a false sense of speed. It is that that knowing, that sense of really knowing that something requires more time, more patience to really be what you want it to be that keeps us from short changing ourselves. And a way to recognize it is to look at our habitual patterns and the upcoming decisions we need to make.
Here are a couple of ways to explore whether you are ready for a short cut or causing yourself to be shortchanged.
Is there a long established pattern of behavior that hasn’t changed over the years? If so, this usually means there is a deeper exploration needed of why you may be short changing yourself in achieving or healing something you have long desired.
Do you feel that you have been holding back your creativity, expertise, or knowledge because of an outdated sense of self? If doing things the same old way feels like you are moving at a snail’s pace, it’s time to take a short cut by asking more directly for what you want.
Do you feel a sense of anxiety, nervousness or conflict when you imagine taking action in your career, relationship or health? These feelings indicate that premature action will short change the result you want and that a deeper examination is needed of why you feel the way you do.
Do you feel excitement, happiness, calmness or joy when you picture yourself in the future being who you want to be? This means it’s time to speed up the process and start taking the short cuts you need by getting support from friends, colleagues and experts who can get you there.
My ironing epiphany let me know, that taking the time to achieve a wrinkle free look, required an attention to detail that ultimately let me look and feel more confident. Who knew that my kitchen counter had so much to offer?
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